Passing Thoughts, by T.W. Winslow
Celebrate the Little Things
Looking at the calendar on my desk, I see that two days
from now my wife, Diane, and I will celebrate our nineteenth anniversary.
The date is circled and there are little red hearts filling the square.
"T+D" in thick black letters and the number "19" is written
over and over, outlining the
date-square. Silly, I know. It's like filling your notebook
junior-high with the name of your girlfriend. I guess I just can't help
I should mention that this isn't our wedding anniversary. It marks the
date I asked Diane to "go steady" - a term, by the way, which didn't
exactly get the response I had hoped - not at first anyway. Back
then, I wasn't aware that I was so uncool and old fashioned that asking someone
to "go steady," was somehow funny. This was something which wasn't
lost on Diane, however, for when I finally mustered the courage to pose the
question and nervously mumbled, "Will you go steady with me?," she
erupted with laughter. Not quite the reaction I was going for.
Fortunately, after she sufficiently calmed herself (which took considerable
time, I might add), she agreed.
When I think back to that night, in some ways it seems like forever, and in
other ways, only yesterday. Some of the most wonderful and memorable times
we've ever had together came in those four years prior to our getting married.
We faced more challenges and obstacles in those few short years than in any
other time in our relationship. Perhaps that's why I'm so careful not to
forget this anniversary, and why I decorate this date on my calendar each year
like some lovesick schoolboy.
Maybe I'm just being silly, but I don't care - that's just me. Sometimes
it's the little things in life and love which hold the most significance and
are remembered with particular fondness. So why not celebrate these as we
do the more grand events of our lives? It's amazing how focusing on the
positive aspects of our lives - no matter how small, can make life just that
much more special and worthwhile.
For me, remembering and celebrating our "going steady" anniversary
serves as a reminder of where we came from, and what it took to get us to where
we are now in our relationship and life together. Maybe it's not as grand
an occasion as our wedding day, for example, but in my book it's just as
important, and I'm determined to not let that special time be forgotten.
So I'll keep decorating my calendar each year - drawing silly little hearts
and writing "T+D." In doing so, I'll remember that awkward kid
asking his best girl to "go steady," and being thankful she said,
"Yes." And my wife and I will continue celebrating our
"going steady" anniversary each year with the same love and excitement
we felt that special night so long ago. I'm looking forward to it already.
Perhaps being uncool and old fashioned isn't so bad after all.
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